Life is a function of choices we make. Some conscious choice while some unconscious. So the only person who is responsible for what we feel is ourselves, whether its joy, pain, happiness, excitement, anger or what so ever.
This diagram shows how simple it is. Don’t mistake me, i didn’t say its easy but simple.
(Now this is for you if you wondering whats the difference between SIMPLE and EASY. Simple=Easily understood or not complex; Easy =Achieved without great effort/difficulty. For example, consider you want to develop your biceps and your physical instructor is asking you to lift dumble. Now this is simple (easily understood) but not easy because you will have to put a lot of effort.)
Lets see how we can use this diagram to keep ourselves happy:
Problem- I flunked in exam.
Isn’t it a good reason to be worried?
But is worrying gonna help you pass by any chance? No i don think so.
So lets use the diagram. Do you have a problem? -> YES.
Can you do something about it? or What can you do about it?
1. Apply for revaluation- if you confident that you wrote well.
2. Analyse your preparation to find out areas you can improve and create a structure to study better for next exam.
3. Find out who could support you in the subject and make a request.
Now the CHOICE is yours whether to waste time worrying or take these action steps. Its same with any of the so called problems you have got.
These are just good philosophies to talk about but not practical. Who wont worry or feel bad when they have a problem, RIGHT??
Yes, even the next time when you have a problem you gonna worry about it even if you saw this diagram, we cannot change our habits or practices that easily, but we surely can if we ready to put some effort.
We worry the moment we face a problem not because of any other reason but simply because that is what we practiced (consciously or unconsciously) all these years. Now if we need to reverse it we need to put equal or more effort. That is what i told in the beginning: its simple but not easy.
“No one can hurt you without your permission”
So just remember that HAPPINESS is at your CHOICE 🙂
Lifeground! 
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